Why You Don’t Like Yourself in Photos (And How to Change That)

"I don’t like myself in pictures."

It’s something I often hear from people before they work with me, followed closely by, “I’m just not photogenic.”

But here’s the thing: it’s not you. It’s how the picture was taken.

It’s like looking in a distorted mirror—one that doesn’t reflect you as you truly are. If the mirror is warped, you wouldn’t blame yourself for not liking what you see, right?

The same goes for photos. When they’re stiff, posed, and unnatural, they don’t reflect the real you.

Remember the last time someone in your family decided to take a picture of you?

It probably started with a grand announcement—like they were about to capture the most epic shot of the century. They made sure you were standing in the "perfect" spot, asked you to smile, and then spent what felt like forever fiddling with the camera. Meanwhile, you’re left standing there, not knowing what to do with your hands, getting more and more stiff by the second.

By the time they finally snap the picture, you’re thinking, "Can this be over already?" And the result? A photo where you're stiff, awkward, and nothing like the real you.

But when my clients stop posing and start capturing themselves in the moment, everything changes.

They’re no longer focused on how they look; instead, they’re immersed in what they love, fully in their element. And that’s when the magic happens.

Their body language becomes natural, but more importantly, their energy shines through.

Energy is everything—it’s what makes someone genuinely captivating. 

Think about people who may not look "perfect" by conventional standards—whether it’s their body shape, hair, or clothes—but you can’t take your eyes off them.

Why?

Because their energy draws you in. When you're in your moment, your energy takes center stage, and you’ll finally see yourself as you really are.

That’s the kind of picture where you look and think, “Wait… who’s that? Oh, it’s me… and I look amazing!”

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